FR ANTHONY MUSAALA
MIREMBE GARDENS
PO BOX 30329
KAMPALA
Tuesday 12th March 2013
AN OPEN LETTER TO BISHOPS, PRIESTS AND LAITY:
THE FAILURE OF CELIBATE
CHASTITY AMONG DIOCESAN PRIESTS.
It is an open secret that many catholic
priests and some bishops, in Uganda
and elsewhere, no longer live celibate chastity.
From the numerous cases on the ground one
might be forgiven for saying that
most diocesan priests either don’t believe in celibacy anymore, or if they do,
have long since given up the struggle to be chaste.
In any case it still seems important for
priests to vow even a woefully
imperfect celibacy, if only for the sake of the hallowed ‘priestly image’.
The church however still maintains the fable
that most catholic priests
persevere in celibate chastity fairly well, which fiction begs belief.
ALL IS NOT WELL
All is definitely not well with what I call
‘administrative celibacy’, in the
catholic church. It is a celibacy which is more forced than consented to,
and its effects are anything but good.
I suggest that now more than at any other
time, we must begin an open and
frank dialogue about catholic priests becoming happily married men,
rather than being miserable and single, either before or after
ordination.
Although this may be quite a shock to many,
but the alternative may be far
worse. What do you think happens when lapses and scandals by priests,
sisters,brothers and bishops continue unabated , whether hidden or not?
My forecast is that we will have a few more
years of catholic
self-deception; perhaps ten, telling ourselves and the world that everything
is Ok, nothing serious. Then more scandals will surface.
As people become more enlightened (as in
Europe) there will be a crisis of
faith, perhaps a sudden collapse, with many leaving the church, either to join
other churches (whose pastors may be no better, but who appear to be less
hypocritical about it), or to become agnostics, especially the middle
classes.
One must remember that there are other
challenges facing the church, such as
general weakening of faith, loss of sacramental life, low incomes, dull
liturgies, and the challenges of the media. Many of the youth ( not the
children) are already alienated from Catholicism and are easy prey to
proselytizing groups.
FACING THE NAKED TRUTH
The number of catholic priests and bishops who
are sexually active in Uganda
is unknown, but almost everywhere unedifying stories of priests ‘sexploits’,
are not hard to come by. These stories are told in counseling or as
anecdotes,or
by the media. They are told within the parishes and beyond. They are told at
home in families, in taxis, in hair salons and in the markets.
What is talked about? Priests’ secret and not
so secret liaisons with girls
and women, coerced sex with house-maids, with students, with relatives;
priests ‘wives’ set up in well established homes; priests involved with a
parishioner’s wife; of priests romantically involved with religious Sisters;
priests offering money for sex, and so on…
If you add to this, a fair number of priests’
and bishops’ children
scattered around the nation, who are carefully hidden from view (and not so
carefully!), not to mention children who are aborted at priests’ behest, we
begin to get the true picture of human weakness, whose consequences are nothing
less than catastrophic both for the priest and his partners, and which cannot
be
concealed by taking a vow of celibacy, or by retreats and more prayers.
LETS LEARN FROM EUROPE AND AMERICA
While in Europe and the States, the scandal of
numerous paedophile priests,
whose victims are rightly suing the catholic church is widely reported
in the media, very little by contrast is heard about priests and bishops in
Africa who continue sexually abusing female minors (or vulnerable women) with
no legal action taken.
Obviously time has come for serious measures
to be undertaken, similar to
those in Europe and America. Apart from legal action in civil and
ecclesiastical
courts aginst offenders, strict ‘child protection’ codes and practices, must be
enforced, by the state which for instance should prohibit young or
vulnerable females from residing in parish houses, where some of the abuses
occur.
THE SINS OF DECEPTION AND SILENCE
Thus the unnecessary and unpalatable deception
about celibate priests, that
they are chaste when they are not is clearly contradicted by what is on the
ground. The deception is of course not tenable for much longer.
Surely we must first tell ourselves the truth
as a church, that is to say,
that celibacy has failed or is failing us, and then also tell the world which
we
have been deceiving the naked truth, before we are completely overtaken by
events.
Unfortunately there is an ominous unhealthy
conspiracy of silence about
these matters among the Ugandan clergy and faithful alike, probably because
priestly celibacy might be seen to be a hollow shell, which it mostly is
nowadays.
The laity for all their good will, are also
co-opted into this unwholesome
silence, sometimes for lack of information, sometimes because they believe that
they have some ‘moral’ duty to be loyal to an imperfect church. In truth their
silence shores up the sins of priests and the destroys many lives.
MARRIED PRIESTS NOT WANTED FOR THE WRONG
REASONS
When I ask lay people whether catholic priests
should have the option to
marry the answer is always NO; since they say, that would make catholic priests
like Anglican reverends! As if that was the worse possible fate, yet Anglican
clergy who are married certainly do not have the same levels and same kinds of
sexual lapses as their catholic counterparts..
Most lay people in Uganda would not like their
priests to have the option of
marriage, yet it is their very own children, sisters, wives who are being used
and abused by the clergy!
THE CAMPAIGN
A campaign for optional married priesthood in
the catholic church is now
required. This campaign is primarily a form of education and purification. It
is not be construed as a rebellion against established doctrine but a reading
of the signs of the times
Since there are no fundamental theological
arguments against a married
priesthood (there are already some married priests in he UK and Uniate catholic
churches) but only arguments from tradition and church discipline, I believe
that it is a matter of time before common sense prevails and marriage for the
clergy in the latin rite (i.e. catholic) church is accepted..
I am aware that there is a big struggle
ahead.Unfortunately celibacy also
serves certain vested interests in the power structure of the church, and of
course celibate priests are cheaper and easier to deal with, even to
manipulate,
by ecclesiastical authority, but I believe that in time we will be freed from
this unecessary yoke, unhelpful as it is, which is all the more severe in
Africa
where family and family ties are so crucial to one’s psychological
equilibrium..
PERSONAL INTEREST
One factor which has prompted me to take up
this campaign is my own
biography. I am one of a handful of several priests who had the misfortune of
appearing in the press for supposed sexual trespasses.
In my case,which was 2009, it was cited that I
must be a homosexual, because
I had homosexual friends and went to homosexual gatherings. Not that I cared
much whether or not someone thinks that I am homosexual. Certainly I have been
called worse things than that.
In my defence I tried to point out that I
didn’t actually recall having had
homosexual relations with any of my rabid accusers, neither did they; which
meant that hearsay alone became the evidence .
What I found troubling is what followed. Apart
from all the pain and scandal
caused to all concerned, I found that even though all the allegations were
based
on hearsay, I was being treated, by my superiors as the biggest sinner in
Nineveh.
Up till now judgements are being made against
me by ecclesiastical
authority in the light of those events, which I suppose is to be expected. I
wondered about this and came to the conclusion that priests who ‘get caught.’
like me, have to pay for the sins of all those who don’t get caught.
In other words failed celibacy requires scapegoats.Some
clergy are able to
get away with the grossest behaviour, because of their age, position, influence
or even because of financial inducements.
So while I appear to have little moral
authority to talk about celibacy as a
priestly virtue because of what may or may not have happened to me in 2009,
nevertheless I can point out the systemic immorality of the institutionalized
hypocrisy called celibate diocesan priesthood, which severely punishes lapses
when they appear, but condones the secret crimes of many more.
I believe that there must be a new openness at
whatever it takes. The point
is not that diocesan priests should leave the priesthood and get married, but
compel the church to offer the option of a married priesthood. This will put an
end to the double lives so many priests are forced to live
.
SOME CASES HEARD
Case One
I spoke with a 21 year old young man last
week. He is one of seven children
of a catholic priest who happens to still be serving within the Province of the
Archdiocese of Kampala. The young man, who is willing to testify, lived in a
parish house with his father priest, even serving on the altar with him, but
having to pretend to be a visiting nephew.
At times he was assisted by his father to go
to school, but was later
abandoned. On one occasion he drank poison in order to end his life, due to the
trauma, but was taken to hospital before he died.
Case Two
Another is a personal friend. He was fathered
by a missionary priest of the
White Fathers 58 years ago but is still suffering the trauma of no real
identity
or home.
Although he has since received some minimum
compensation from the White
fathers , he still feels that there was an injustice to his mother who is still
alive , who was sexually assaulted by the said White father priest in his
office
when she was only sixteen. He wishes to sue.
Case Three
Another case is of a priest who seduced a
member of my youth group who
happened to be in need of school fees, at Old Kampala, She soon became pregnant
by the said priest, disappeared from church activities and from her home to be
established in a ‘home’.
Case Four
Another lady tells of how she went to
confession, only to be sexually
molested by the priest, who fondled her breasts during confession
Case Five
When I was at secondary school, it was common
knowledge that various Brothers
were having sexual activity with the boys. It was called ‘jaboo’. As a
pubescent
teenager, my first sexual encounter was actually with one of the brothers who
invited me to his room on the pretext of doing some extra chemistry equations.
I
was sixteen at the time. Later I heard that several others had been through the
same thing..with the same Brother and with other ones..Some are still alive to
this day.
ACTION REQUIRED
I do not believe either that these cases are
just a few ‘bad apples’ in the
barrel, but rather they are symptomatic of a sick system which has lost its
integrity in this one area, but won’t admit it.
Some of these cases are clearly criminal in
nature, especially those of sex
with children. They should be dealt with in a normal fashion and legal action
taken in civil courts either against the church, or against those priests who
offend.
I am therefore compiling cases from all over
Uganda.I believe that if the all
the victims of clearly molestations were to come out and sue the church in
civil courts, such abuses would sharply decrease.
I am also helping to set up a Victims Support
Group, independent of
the church for obvious reasons, with guidance and help from similar groups in
Europe and the States.
I have also engaged a Human rights lawyer to
advise on the wider implications
of clergy abuse on the basic human rights of individuals, especially women.
Join me in this exciting challenge to bring
fundamental change and renewal
to the catholic church.
Happy Easter
FR. ANTHONY MUSAALA